| Question ID 3301 - Family issues - 2016-04-29 22:15:02 |
| Asalaam Alaikum,
Since childhood my sister has had a jealous nature which often results in many family disputes. She has a lot of anger in her, but does not take responsibilities for her mistakes but instead blames others for things which have gone wrong in her life. This also contributed to the breakdown of her marriage, now she has returned to her parental home with her daughter. Her daughter is now 4 years old. Whenever my sister contributes to an argument, she does not allow anyone to take her daughter out of the situation, but instead forces her to stay in this negative environment. Whenever my sister has a disagreement with anyone at home, she tells her daughter to stop talking and interacting with certain family members. She tells her that her extended family members do not care for her or her daughter and that we only care about ourselves. She does not take our advice and remains angry with everyone. We all love her and her daughter very much, but she is now putting hatred into the heart of her daughter towards her extended family. Her daughter is also developing anger too. We are uncertain how to help her, please could you advise us? |
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Answer:- Good attitude and bad attitude can not be changed but when the person
himself or herself decides to change after being convinced that he/ she
needs to change. One of the best ways to convince the person is to make his
or her friends talk to him about the harms of bad attitude and the need for
change. Try to make her friends talk to her gently to explain the harm of
bad behavior on her and more importantly on her child.
No doubt, Du'a is very useful always for every matter.
You also need to avoid any word or act which can make her angry and try
your best to treat with her in a nice way. That should make her respond
with a nice way as well.
Wassalam.
Mohammad Al-Musawi
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