Category: Marriage

Total : 371 Results

Question ID 982 Friday 27th of December 2013

Question:

Aslam o Alikum Syed I have been married for 17 year. I am originally from pakistan. When I got married and came here, after a year of marriage my husband and father in law said to get a job. They found me a job and I started working.( I had to earn living to pay for all my expenses and off my children. Along work I had to do all the housework. I live in joint family whith my inlaws and three sister in laws and my husband and children. I had lots of problems and after 14 year i said to my husband i cant do this anymore and to move me out. he agreed to move me but he did not wanted to move and agreed to pay half of expenses to me for myself and children. Its been four years now and he does not pay me anything. Only thing he pay is mortgage of the house which he paid by the rent money from one of the rooms he let out to someone. It our house and I had to two rooms and he let out the third room. Even since i have moved I have been doing all my duties towards him including Intercourse. My question is if i am obligied to earn my own living and for kids aswell, do I have to obey everything he says. He is off sunni sect. My parents married me to him. He wants me to change my belief and not go to majalis and not see my family. I have one sister here and does not want me to see her or for her to come to my house. I hav the sole respossibility of children, and even he refused to takecare of them if i have to go somewhere. I dont ask for any unreasonable demands or to go palces where he does not like but all I ask is to see my sister and for her to visit me but he refuses. I have started to ger tired now. I dont want to divorce because of the imapct this will have on my children. He is so negtive and critical of everything I do. I dont get any comfort kindness sympathy love effection from him. I does not help me in any thing. Please syed tell me what shall I do? I have tried talking to him but he is so stuck in his ways that does not want to listen. Only way he says is, if i leave my belief and my family. Syed how can i do that? please help me. I try my best not to perform any acts which i will be held reponsible on the day of judgement but I started to get very tired now. Please help me and pray for me

Answer:

The husband is fully responsible to spend on his wife and children. Even if
he did not pay for your expenses, all the amounts remain a debt on him for
you.
You are not allowed to leave the Real Islam of the Prophet (SAWA) and his
Ahlul Bayt (AS) under any pressure. If your husband starts forcing you to
leave the True faith, you must then keep the faith and leave your husband.
Wassalam.
Mohammad al-Musawi

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Question ID 964 Saturday 21st of December 2013

Question:

Salam I am a 22 year old male Iranian shia muslim. I have been recently trying to get married. However the girls dad is refusing on the basis that i am not iraqi. Please advise me on what i must do w.s

Answer:

Islam allows marriage between Muslim male and Muslim female from any
country. Try to make respected people to speak to the father of the girl.
Wassalam.
Mohammadbal-Musawi

Question ID 926 Wednesday 11th of December 2013

Question:

Salaams please email to me on what basis can a husband re marry? And if his wife is ill but is not wanting him to re marry where does he stand? If a wife cannot fulfill her husbands desires does it give him rights to remarry?

Answer:

Islam allows four wives if the man is able to practice justice between
them, otherwise no more than one wife if practical justice is not done.
If the wife is unable to fulfil her husband's needs, he is allowed to have
a another wife but the condition of practical justice remains.
Wassalam.
Mohammad al-Musawi

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Question ID 906 Wednesday 4th of December 2013

Question:

Salam. This is to follow up Question ID 905 - Marriage. If its contains any forbidden act like singing or dancing or any non Islamic religious practices, but the believer won't practice any forbidden acts, and the purpose of his attendance is for respect of his brother, can he still attend?

Answer:

Respecting his brother is good, but it does not justify taking part in any
gathering where Allah is disobeyed. If there is no such forbidden act, then
attending will be allowed.
Wassalam.
Mohammad al-Musawi


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Question ID 905 Tuesday 3rd of December 2013

Question:

Salam. As a Muslim and follower of Ahlulbait (AS), can a Muslim attend to the wedding of his brother when the ceremony is christian wedding and in the catholic church? Sukran

Answer:

If the gathering does not contain any forbidden act like singing or dancing
or any non Islamic religious practices, then it is allowed to attend, but
if the gathering contains any forbidden act, it becomes then forbidden to
attend it.
Wassalam.
Mohammad al-Musawi

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