| Question ID 5161 - Marriage - 2020-01-29 03:15:01 |
| Asalaam o alaikum
Today its been 9 years of my married life and we have 3 kids and my wife is also aalima from wafiq ul madaris but i have cought my wife cheating with me 4 time in this 9 years (she makes affair with my every friend and with anyone she wants ) i dont know what to do with her because she has no one in this world her father died and she has no sister no brother but now i have sperated her bed with me kindly please guide me what to do with her
Walekum salaam |
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Answer:- It is unusual for a woman who has studies religious studies to cheat. I can
not judge her before listening to her, but if you are sure that she did
cheat you and did not talk to people with clean intention, then you need to
talk to her nicely to advise her and ask her :
1. Why did she cheat when she has a husband and children?
2. What does she think about the consequences in this life and hereafter?
3. What does she expect from her children when they know about her cheating
if it really happened?
4. If she has daughters, does she want her daughters to cheat their husband
in the future?
5. What men with whom she cheated you will think about her, specially when
they know that she studied in a religious school?
6. Does she feel that such major sinful act can be committed again by her?
7. Can she promise Allah (SWT) and the Prophet (SAWA) and Ahlul Bayt (AS)
to stop and change her life to a pious life?
If she accepts to stop wrong acts, then give a her another chance and see.
If she refused to promise or if she promises then commits the wrong again,
then you need to take another step by involving respected persons who have
influence on her.
It is wrong to separate her bed from your bed. This can worsen the
situation between you and her and can be used as an excuse to do more wrong
because of your neglecting her needs as a woman. Some women do wrong with
the excuse of not getting enough attention and love from their husbands.
Never tell any one about this problem because it will affect the future of
your children and even your respect in the society. Only those trusted
mediators can be informed when it is required.
Wassalam.
Mohammad Al-Musawi
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