| Question ID 2632 - Divorce - 2015-07-05 09:00:01 |
| Salaam
I dont really know where to begin.
I want to divorce my husand. I have been married for 3 years, and in those 3 years i have never felt so depressed in my whole life.
i am in a 3 way marriage, me my husand and his mum. my mother inlaw has made my life difficult. she doesnt like anything i do and she oten complains to my husband about me. and they are over the must stupid things like she doesnt wear nice clothes, or i go to the masjid early with my father inlaw becuse idont want to sit with her and she always make fun of me and how i have been bought up in front of her friends. i come from a family of 6 sisters and im the youngest, i never learnt how to cook as my older sisters did it, and my mum told this to them before i got married. she makes fun of this. when i help her in the kitchen she always tells me to go.
my husband doesnt include me in his life, every decsion he makes its without me and only listens to his famly. which is a good thing but i feel left out. i have supported myself in my marriage and i also give my husband money to support him.
i get nothing from my husband, he is either at work, reciting majlis at meetings or in a class. he spends no time with me. i have caught him 3 times with other girls, sending dirty messages and asking them to meet. this has really upset me as i have done everything i can to support him and i never said no to him. he has no reason to see other girls. i not being arrogant in saying this but i am a very attractive girl and i keep myself beautiful. he has no excuse to see other girls. i married him as i thought he has a man of faith but he is not. i feel like he has lied to me. i had certain condtions in marraige, one of them being that he cant marry or do muta while being married to me, i asked for his support and asked for us to pray togther but i get nothing and i tired of this. i have bought his issuie up and to his parents but they say nothing to him. he wont give me a divorce and says he wants to give it one more chance but he has had 3 chances and the trust and love is not there. i hate him and i hate his mum and i dont want to go back there. he even spent the money i was saving for hajj and didnt give me permisson for hajj. when i went for ziyarat he cursed me and said my ibadat will never get accepted.
what shall i do? i dont know where to go. i ont want to do a kulla divorce as he never supported me and i gave him money and he is in debt to me. |
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Answer:- Both of you need counseling to analyze the reasons behind the problems
between you. You may ask a respected person to arrange such counseling
soon. If you live in U.K. And need help, you may contact office of WABIL
020 84598475
Wassalam
WABIL
LONDON UK
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