|Question ID 1620 - Family issues
I married a momina girl without taking any dowry and I am on a very good post.I am Indian.
I was getting very large amount of money in dowry from many different people who were rich and willing to marry their daughters to me.
My parents were also desperate to marry me with any such girl who is having a rich father.
But I married a girl from educated sayyid family who is middle class and my wife is well educated and prays 5 times a day and fasts in ramazan.
I am happy with my wife and now in last 6 years of my marriage , I got 2 sons also.
My parents still mentally torture me on differnt occasions and scolds me that I ruined and destroyed their plans and we could have become rich by taking dowry or by marrying a girl of some influential person's daughter.
I feel very bad and sometimes I quarrel with them and feels very bad as I know that its a great sin to say anything to your old parents. But I am unable to control my anger at times and say some bad words to them.
I dont know , what should I do?
Please advice me, I married with my wife against the will of my parents and they were not there at the time of my marriage.
Should I divorce my wife?
what do you Advice to my parents?
|Answer:- Do not divorce your wife , and do not hurt her feelings.
You must tolerate your parents even if they do injustice to you. Never
speak any word which can hurt them. Always be very polite when you talk to
them or respond to their wrong opinion. Allah will never bechappybwith any
one who hurts his parents feelings.
Keep balance between your parents and your wife and maintain justice when
dealing with both sides, but be very polite with your parents, even when
they are wrong.